Overlapping Stuff

Last night MK and I went to a cute little French restaurant and then for many Margaritas.. yes I know, the mix is odd and I'm kind of feeling it today. Anyway I love when we go into the city and I love when we get into really deep talks that are completely open and honest.. usually somewhat aided by beverages but still honest. So we talked about a lot of things and it was great.

One of the side topics we discussed was how similar one should be with their boyfriend/husband in terms of interests, hobbies, passions, skills, etc. This is something I'm not totally sure about. Ideally I would think that I would want the guy to be good at a lot of things that I'm not.. it is vital that he excels in math and science so that if we get married and have children they have half a chance of being intelligent. I would want him to be intelligent and have lots of his own things going on, that he could teach me but still be interested in my stuff. I don't know if this can happen. I dated a complete opposite for a while, but he was so categorical about everything... I was music and books, he was sports and science. I was artsy movies and he was blockbuster epics... and it wasn't as though he had any interest in doing my stuff but I had to go along with his things.. which included reading about financial planning and the stock market. It was fun eh? Anyway that didn't quite work because there wasn't enough overlap.

So then I ended up dating a guy with basically no interests. Sounds dramatic but at the same time, he was happy to go along with whatever I wanted to do and so I drove that baby! But that wasn't overly fulfilling because I don't feel like I really grew as a person or learned anything except how much fun my stuff is... but I already knew that!

So now I wonder... how important is the overlap? Or is it better to be similar and completely into each others things... I don't know. I had this thing with a fairly artsy guy for a while and that was kind of weird because it felt like we were competing or something. That didn't work for me.

I think about BNB because he's basically the guy on the scene right now. Well technically he's 6000 miles from the scene but he's the main guy I think about these days. He has the whole math/science thing going on... biochemistry degree from fancy shmancy UK university. Works for some investment company. He has the whole hobby thing going on... is into nature things, mountain biking, camping, Arsenal seasons tickets, running, travelling... but he also reads books and goes to plays. (not that this is the main thing.. a guy's interest in the theatre.. I'm just using it as an example) There is definite overlap here. I can actually learn things from him and teach him a few things too. Maybe I'm way too teacher-minded here but I think something along those lines should occur. There needs to be things that you can do together and there needs to be things that you do alone.. I think that is healthy. So yes, overlap is good.

Now I realize that this boy is very far away and it could merely be a holiday thing and I have no plans to hop a plane to the UK... I'm just seeing what is happening and letting him drive it, and he is right now. But despite my overly excited remarks about him and how I feel about him I am still working on not getting too involved or setting myself up to get too hurt. I promise JC! Basically it's a nice distraction.. and I've got nothing else going on. There aren't any other boys who I am preventing myself from getting to know or closing myself off to because of this... so I don't know.. we'll see....